I will live within you

Merry CHRISTmas Veronika Hompo, make sure you wish your elderly Christian parents a Merry Christmas….also your “uncle” and “cousin” or “aunt.” Poor Veronika, everyone knows you declared yourself a Christian long ago and there is just no way possible you convinced your 76 year old father (is he alive still?) to convert from his deep Christian beliefs to Satanism. WE ALL CALL BULLSHIT. Same goes for your mother, who you forgot you told some Facebook users her real name. She is a practicing Christian. Many of the people related to you in some way are Christians with Jewish DNA. You have yet to delete your old info which you declare your religion as CHRISTIAN. You have no idea what website you did it on, which is fabulous since it will cause you hours of psychosis trying to locate where you’ve forgotten to hide your past! Enjoy this honest and truthful video which shames Hungary for it’s murders of innocent children. Would you murder your new Satanist friend’s child for being Jewish? Should we tell the HP’s or fouthreich666 or VovinPrgel since you are too coward to tell them you bonded with a man who is involved deeply with a Jewish woman and they have a Jewish child…Mike Dom is his name, is it not? With his Jewish woman who not too long ago took a trip to Israel to honor her ancestry and whom has posted on Zionist topics? (would you like to see her postings, Veronika Hompo freak?) And Jewish born daughter, yes? You know this is truth, why lie? Something you have abused, harassed and stalked another woman for, for having a child born from two religions — so, you decide who is the OK Jew and who isn’t? VovinPrgel might be a sucker and fool, unaware of the death ritual you performed claiming you were “spiritually murdering him” for what he said about you, but you, the sly bitch, convinced that fool you’re friends! Just as you did to dozens of people years ago and then you turned on ALL OF THEM. Wait until all these idiot JoS assholes who don’t realize YOU LIED to them and find out the truth, maybe a year from now, maybe years, but they will and when they do you will burn. You think you’re some tough bitch? You’re a puppet and a freak, a 12 year old on JoS playing candy store magic with yourself and large candlesticks in your dirty filth of a one room flat.

Deny facts all you want but deep down you know you and Hungary are dirty filth and low class. Why would the rest of us brilliant Hungarians (and Hungarian Germans) leave that shithole? People like you. Shit. Shit-stained ugly filth.

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x27qf89_i-will-live-within-you-heb-includes-subtitles_shortfilms

https://dailymotion.com/video/x27qf89

This short homage film dedicated to the memory of our brothers, holy sacrifices who were slaughtered for no reason and amongst them the innocent 1,500,000 children.
Based on parts of real letters of Holocaust victims taken from the book “Final Letters – From Victims of the Holocaust” edited by Zvi Bachrach, Yad Va’Shem, Volume A
Narration and Illustration by Shirly Schwartz
A short film by Yaniv Schwartz (DOP)
The letters were writted by our sacred brothers:
Pinhasele Aayznar
Dr Emil Eliezer Nohal
Moshe Akaar
Gusta Berger Ehrlich
Chaim, aged 14, was murdered in Pustkow
Zeltaka and Juta Vishniatzky, mother and daughter
The father of Yehoshua Szeremi from Hungary
Ida Goldish
Asher Ben Yitzhak Schwartz
Fania Berbekov
Moishe
Hulda (?)
Elsa Kalover
Chaim Nachman Bialik “City of Slaughter”
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Sad Klezmer Violin with Orchestra by Danring
Momma Still Loves Ya by The storyshop
Truth Lies Within by Jeffheim

Photo Credits:
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United States Holocaust Memorial Museum

Yad Vashem Photo Archive

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The Joy of Satan (And Why You Shouldn’t Care About Them.) AKA Everyone in the JoS is an Idiot

Sometimes you stumble upon a gem online. One that makes you laugh so hard, you can’t help but almost — almost — feel pity and sorry for these losers. But hey, they chose their path and it’s no one else’s fault that they are wasting their lives. The only true victims are the teenagers. The fact that these adults take advantage of them is pure sickness.

The Joy of Satan (And Why You Shouldn’t Care About Them.)

After getting kicked off of the JoS forums and having to keep track of Mad Maxine and the rest of her little cult through a second account, I’ve started being able to see what the people in these forums say in a far more analytical and less personal light.

One thing that instantly caused me dismay recently, was a topic aimed specifically at ‘High Priestess Maxine and Black Shadow Stallion.’

AND Black Shadow Stallion?

Oh dear.

Now the most Nazified and ignorant of the Satanazis from the JoS is going to think they’re something special. This is the person who seems to know the most about the ‘cosmic’ struggle between the supposed alliance of the ‘greys’, ‘reptiles’ and ‘angels’ – commonly known as the IGF, which somehow stands for Intergalactic Federation (the G in IGF standing for…?) and the Gods of Ancient Someria (along with whatever Gods the JoS has decided should also be part of Father Satan/Enki/Ea/Jehova’s barmy army of aliens) and is also the person who sees ‘Hitler killed Jews’ and ‘Hitler didn’t like Christian Churches’ as (the only two) perfectly logical connections between Nazism and Satanism as avid proof that Satan, in fact, follows a human made political viewpoint. I find it so amazingly frustrating, the level of stupidity that exists within this cult. But it does not surprise me.

Recently, Maxine comforted a member who wished to convert back to Christianity while they were on their death bed, dying of Cancer. All communications took place through the forums.

Maxine claimed that this was a foolish wish and that just by simply focusing on Satan, the member would recover. She even used a story, which was so painfully obviously fabricated, to back up her claims. Apparently, once upon a time, the mighty Maxine was concerned that she was going to die of blood loss, but by focusing on Satan she was saved. Being aware that this lie wouldn’t hold up on its own and was nothing to do with the matter at hand; she even gave forth an anecdote of how a friend of hers miraculously recovered from Cancer in the same way! Well, that’s just magical, Maxine, but there were no more contexts to these tales, and as such I can claim that the fact that my cat is sleeping on lap at the moment is the only thing stopping my balls exploding and mutanagenic cream seeping out of my ears and I’ll have as much proof and justification of these facts.

And yet this comforting reply from Maxine was hailed as gracious and compassionate. In fact, every post by Maxine is immediately followed by an onslaught of blind brown nosing. The individuals of the JoS are certainly proud of their ability to think freely.

But then, suddenly it dawns on me…

So what?

The entire JoS cult is often seen as some sort of danger to Satanism. As giving real Satanism a bad name or twisting it or destroying it or whatever… but it’s not. For one simple reason…

Everyone in the JoS is an idiot.

I read through all the subjects of all the topics being discussed in both the Teens for Satan and Joy of Satan web forums and realised that everything there was either fantasy or though and through retarded rubbish, most of which had just finished being discussed in another topic and had been brought up again by someone new. The JoS goes around in neat little circles, never achieving anything.

How can they even claim to be Satanists? They worship Enki, the Sumerian God. Not Satan. Hence, they should be Enkites, or Enkists. After all, they claim that Enki was named Satan by his enemies and that Enki is Satan’s real name. So isn’t worshipping Enki, but calling yourself a Satanist a glaring insult to your God? It’s a lot like a misunderstood child at school earning the nickname ‘Shit Face’ and having everyone call him that and tease him. Then, a group of people realise that he’s not such a bad kid and open up a ‘Temple of Shit Face’. You’d assume that they’re either all a bunch of morons and ignore them or think they were taking the mick. Thus, if Enki is indeed Satan, then the JoS are probably the very last people he’d want to associate himself with.

Another recent post, supposedly proving Enki’s continued involvement with the JoS but which, as far as I can see, simply insults the intelligence of one often referred to as ‘the most clever and wise of gods’ claimed that Satan/Enki had ordered an attack on the Angel Michael. It received neither reply nor conformation at any time from any ‘High Priest’ or even a regarded member. It was posted in the Teens for Satan forum and nowhere else. The message was exactly as follows:

“Louis Rynsard” <louis@r…>

wrote:

Father has asked me to tell every Satanist I know of to focus
all their offensive energy at the archangel Michael on November 1st
please remember this is to help us during the rapture
thank
Hail Enki

Yes, that makes perfect sense. Satan, sitting aloft upon his mighty throne, decided that the time was right to launch a major offensive against one of his archenemies. ‘How shall I go about accomplishing such a task?’ he thought to himself. ‘I know! I’ll tell some obscure moron who has no grasp of grammar to post my glorious plan in a single web forum full of people as dumb as he is! No way am I telling anyone competent or respected MY plan!’

Meanwhile, in Heaven, Michael is approached by one of his underlings… ‘Hey boss, I was doing a search on the web today and I found out that about six really stupid teenagers are planning on focusing offensive energy upon you on November first.’

‘”Offensive energy”? What the hel-uh-heck, is that?’ Michael asks, unsure whether he should be worried or vengeful.

‘I assume it’s the same as normal energy, but with its middle finger up or something.’ Replies the apathetic underling, ‘but at least now that we know exactly when they’re going to focus it, we can gather our forces, properly prepare in good time and destroy them.’

‘But,’ Michael says, wisely, ‘what if this is what they want us to think and this really is an intelligent hoax?’

At this point, I imagine the underling would collapse on the floor and laugh till his lungs exploded.

And what the hell is ‘the rapture’?

The same poster saw it fit to label this post ‘extremely important’.

I understand that they are many forms of satanism but surley the ones
that arent xian satanism or laveryian should all join together to
overall help satanists world wide.
Hail Enki

And here within I demonstrate the reason why I was booted off of the JoS under some crappy excuse about being an enemy of the JoS. I was suggesting to people that they branch out and learn about other forms of Satanism in order to cement their beliefs and just generally to learn. This proves beyond a doubt, especially because of the multitude of people replying in agreement, that the JoS is a big bunch of ignorant fools. But this is how Maxine wants her members to be; otherwise they’d be capable of realising what Satanism actually is and would see what a load of trollop the JoS is. They’re also prone to attention seeking fantasies, such as this member:

volsung_sword <garou1982@aol.com> wrote:

When I finished the opening the third eye mediations I had a flash
back to my youth.

Many time I recall feeling the pressence of greys. There would be this
intense vidration I’d feel it get closer and closer then somthing
would touch me and my whole body would shivering along with it, I
rember intense pain and headachs for days.

This occured many many times over the course of my child hood and
early to late teens.

Normally the touch would work it’s way down my chakras. It was alot
like the third eye mediatation.

Any idea what those grey fucks where doing to me?

-Russ

Right, because a race of highly advanced aliens would be SO interested in someone who can’t even spell ‘a lot’ correctly. I’ll tell you what ‘those grey fucks’ WERE ‘doing to’ you. They were probably looking for your brain and failing.

So, as you can see, there is no danger there. Leave Mad Maxine to her odd Enkist, Nazi crusades. Let everyone on the site be ignorant. It’s the least they deserve. The only reason anyone stays long at the JoS is because they’re too dumb to figure out that it’s all a load of made up, occasionally new age twoddle. So who cares if this group of toddlers is mixing up Satanism a little? They never move out to contaminate other branches of Satanism and remain enslaved within their own forums and small minds. Satanism is generally dominated by the intellectually elite. We’re better off without them.

More information on the Joy of Satan site:

These are websites that host articles and essays against the Joy of Satan. It’s interesting to see how many people have opposed this pseudo-satanic neo-Nazi group over the years.

1. Check out this site…Facts on the JOS

2. Another Great site..A satanist debunks the joy of satan

3. Yet again…Clifford Herrington [aka Maxine Dietrich’s real history]

4. NSM and JOS share the same mailbox!! Nazis Falling…

5. You wont believe…The sorrow of the JOS

6. Diane Vera on…Why Satanism and Nazism aren’t Compatable…LOL

7. Fake website to promote Enki worshipAuthored by the JOS

8. Look..False Teachings of the JOS… Exposed! By Christians..

9. Article….Former JOS member Challenging the Al-Jilwah

10. Essay:Challenging the Joy of Satan

11. Diane Vera Websites opposing the Joy of Satan and neo-Nazism in Satanism

12. Essay: The Joy of Satan (And Why You Shouldn’t Care About Them.)

13. Challenging Maxine Dietrich and her beliefs of the Jews

14. The Joy of Satan..A Cult that you should avoid

15. Magistra Ygraine on The Joy of Satan Home Deopt Ban

16. Magistra Ygraine The Worst of the Worst, Joy of Satan

17. Maxine Dietrich reported at Rip-Off Report.com

18. Johnny Lee Clary on That sex-crazed nutty Satan worshiping nazi, Andrea Herrington

19. The Temples of Satan on Arguments Against The Joy of Satan Group

20. Former Teen Satanist Challenges the Joy of Satan

21. The Refiner’s Fire Open letter to the Joy of Satan

22. Fundies! The Joy of Satan Their feeble attempt to disprove the Bible

23. Even the neo-nazis disagree with the Joy of Satan.. The National Satanists Movement

24. Why Nazism and Satanism Have nothing to do with each other

25. GM Blackwood: The Joys of Exposing the Joy of Satan

26. “Ireallyhateallofyou” Blog: Real Life Satanic Neo Nazis

27. David Icke Forum: [even hardcore conspiracy theorists think JOS is a joke] Joy of Satan Ministries

28. HP Salem Burke of the JOS Confesses to statutory Rape.. The Orange Chapter

29. Teens in Canada commit crime for the Joy of Satan Spray paint graffiti on a church.

30. Maxine Dietrich has sex with 17 year old JOS member

31. Joy of Satan is Doomed to Destroy Itself

32. GM Blackwood: Commentary on the JOS Satanic Mania

33. For Shame! The black Satanist Group Expelled from the Joy of Satan because of Race

34. All I want for Chrassmas.. Is a Satanic Hollywood Nazi

35. Maxine Dietrich at The Fundie Site

36. Diane Vera at WordPress: Archive for the ‘anti-Satanism’ Category

37. The Sitichin is Wrong Website Arguments against the teachings of Zechariah Sitchin

38. The Twelfth Planet Analysis of Sitchin

39. Challenging Antisemitism Debunking the Myths

40. Questions you Should NEVER ask The Joy of Satan Ministry

Emotional Competency – Tyranny (Hitler, Nazis, Joy of Satan members, V. Hompo, Mad Max etc)

Emotional Competency – Tyranny.

Tyranny
Abusing Power

Whether it’s a pushy person, a control freak, a bully, or an outright tyrant, the problem is the same: their goals are always more important than yours. A difficult, pushy person has gone too far again. They are bossing you around, acting selfish and self-important, threatening you, making demands, barking orders, and abusing their power. Control freaks, imperative people, and tyrants exercise power in a harsh, cruel, or destructive manner. They are oppressive, harsh, arbitrary people who make life difficult for too many of us. They are annoyinginconsiderate, and demeaning. What are they thinking? How can we respond constructively?

Caution: Control-oriented people as described here expect to control the people and events around them. Exposing or challenging their tactics could provoke their anger and result in severe and possibly dangerous retaliation. Expect to be a target of their backlash. Protect yourself and others who could become targets before challenging a control-oriented person.

Definitions

  1. Absolute rule,
  2. Abusing power,
  3. Selfish power,
  4. Unmitigated power,
  5. Unrestrained exercise of power; abuse of authority

Related Terms

Difficult people, control freaks, imperative people, and bullies push us around during our day-to-day encounters. They go out of their way to turn every encounter into a dominance contest and often insist on getting the last word. They insist you do it their way, dominating so many trivial issues as well as the more important ones. Going out to dinner with a control freak can easily become an ordeal. Choosing the restaurant, deciding where to sit, what to order, what fork to use, how much to tip, how long to stay, who pays, how to pay, and what to do next all has to be done their way. Tyrants, dictators, despots, autocrats, authoritarians, imperialists, fascists, Czars, Nazis, and monarchs practice their tyranny, totalitarianism, absolute rule, and domination on a larger and more destructive scale.

Tyranny leads to oppression, the sustained humiliation of a group of people. The oppressed people are suppressed, limited, or controlled by unjust use of force or authority.

A Hierarchy of Tyrants:

Tyranny can creep into our behavior to a greater or lesser degree. Here are some categories, arranged in increasing degrees of dominance and disregard for others.

Cause / Deficiency Behavior
Low Self-esteem Fragile high self esteem drives these people to act superior to disguise their inferior feelings. Controlling others is one manifestation of their need to act superior.
Healthy Self-esteem This is the desired condition. True leaders act from healthy high esteem.
Egotism Egotists are self-centered. They have been seduced by their first-person viewpoint. It’s all about them; they are motivated only by their own self-interests. They lack empathy for others. They are controlling because only their needs matter.
Narcissism Narcissists have a grandiose sense of self-importance. They exaggerate their achievements and expect to be recognized as superior, even when their accomplishments are ordinary. They fantasize attaining unlimited success or power. They believe they are special and require excessive admiration. They lack empathy and exploit others to achieve their own ends. They often envy others or believe others envy them. They are controlling because only they matter.
Psychopath Psychopaths are anti-social. They totally disregard the rights of others. They feel little or no remorse for the harm they cause others. They blame the victim and lack empathy. They are deceitful, aggressive, tough minded, glib, superficial, exploitative, irresponsible, and impulsive. Yet they may display a superficial charm. They are controlling because others don’t matter.

Leadership and Tyranny:

A superficial analysis may show that leaders and tyrants share many characteristics. Tyrants often appear at first as strong and effective leaders. Perhaps this explains why so many tyrants attain leadership positions. This chart can help us discern the differences and avoid the costly mistake of granting unchecked positional power to a tyrant.

Leaders Tyrants
Visionary; holds a clear, compelling, well thought-out, and constructive vision for the future. Focused while maintaining broad perspective. Visionary, but fixated on a narrow view. Narrowly focused.
Determined; they persistently pursue their goal and are undaunted by obstacles and setbacks. Relentless, tenacious, unyielding, rigid, close-minded, dogmatic, and stubborn.
Influential; communicates passionately to engage people. Influential, charismatic, captivating, engaging.
Passionate; remains committed and focused on the goal with heart and soul. Obsessed; the goal is all that matters. It must be achieved at all costs.
Increase trust. Followers are intrinsically motivated and provide enduring support. Increase fear. Followers are extrinsically motivated and support ends when the coercion ends. Often resentment endures.
Enthusiastic. Zealot.
Connected with others. Separate from others. Isolated, alone and apart.
Empathy for others. Humble. Apathy for others. Arrogant.
Healthy self-esteem. Accurate and realistic self-appraisal. Solicits and accepts feedback and criticism. Low, or fragile-high self-esteem. Egotism, narcissism, or even psychopathic. Inaccurate and Unrealistic self-appraisal. Avoids and rejects criticism and all but overwhelmingly positive feedback.
Primarily concerned for the cause, the organization, and the people being lead. Concerned only for the self.
Broadly and ethically principled. Fair and generous. Unprincipled or narrowly principled. Selfish.
Responsible. Irresponsible.
Internal Locus of Control External Locus of Control.
Consistent, reliable, logical, authentic, well adjusted, and emotionally stable. Volatile, whacky, irritable.
Realistic. Optimistic.
Listens and dialogues. Monologs, lectures, preaches and engages in tirades.
Respects reciprocity and symmetry. Strongly asymmetrical.
Open, communicative. Secretive.
Concerned with substance. Concerned with image.
Evidence based. Dominance based.
Considerate Invasive, intrusive, and obnoxious.
High, relevant, consistent, and attainable performance standards. Perfectionist, demanding, inconsistent.
Provides helpful and balanced feedback. Critical and demanding.
Benjamin Franklin, Catherine the Great, George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Mahatma Gandhi, Winston Churchill, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King Jr. Adolf Hitler, Pol Pot, Joseph Stalin, Saddam Hussein, Mao Tse Tung, Idi Amin Dada, Slobodan Milosevic

Tyranny is no substitute for leadership and should never be confused with leadership.

Healthy Control

It is certainly important for us to control ourselves and many aspects of our lives. Self-control is an important attribute of maturity, and an essential component of relatedness. Control is an essential element of responsibility. Loss of control leads to anxietyunhappinessangerresentment, stress, feeling helpless, and even depression. Abdicating control, acting powerless, and playing the victim, is irresponsible. But keep in mind that our freedom ends where other’s begins. Balance control with the rights and needs of others and respect for others.

Control goes beyond Autonomy and Competence

Autonomy—responsible free choice—is a basic human need. But control goes beyond autonomy because it goes beyond what is reasonable or necessary and ignores the needs and freedoms of other people. Control is autonomy gone awry because it is unmitigated by relatedness. Control ignores the no-trespassing sign that autonomy respects.

Competence—successfully meeting an optimum challenge—is also a basic human need that is similar to but not the same as control. You can reasonably ask: How can I succeed at a task if I can’t control the activities required for the task? Again the distinction is the consideration given to the rights of others.

Out of Balance:

Why do they act so bossy? What are control freaks and other bullies thinking? They have several perceptions and beliefs out of balance.

Reducing Anxiety:

The mistaken belief that what I can control can’t hurt me drives the behavior of many control freaks. Others are driven by the fear that they will lose control, or at least needed autonomy, altogether. Their anxiety results from vulnerabilities that the control freak tries to eliminate by controlling every aspect of the environment and the people in it. They try to control every threat. They lose track of what they can change and what they cannot. They chose an ineffective approach to coping with their anxiety. There is certainly enough to worry about: the ambitious boss-under-pressure worries the work won’t get done, envious co-workers worry you’ll get the promotion instead of them, jealous adults worry about their partners; scarcity leads to resource contention, stature-conscious, resentful, or caring but inept parents worry about the kids; and tormented, willful, or confused kids worry about the parents and each other. It must be exhausting.

Uncontrollable adverse events often lead to learned helplessness and stress. Exerting control learned prevents helplessness, unless you try to control the uncontrollable or change the unchangeable.

Tyrants reduce their own fear by removing anyone who poses a threat.

Getting it Right:

An obsession with getting it right—when driven by the fear of failure—can result in controlling behavior. Perhaps the control freak does have an important vision worth achieving. Perhaps the goals are worth working hard toward. Perhaps obsessive attention to detail is the best way to get the all-important result. Perhaps they have an outsized but narrow and rigid sense of duty. They may not see other options for solving problems and getting things done. They may be trapped by their own set of rigid but ill-founded rules. Perhaps the control freak just cares more than you do about the goal. They may see the goal as much more important than the relationship, and they don’t see how to preserve both. Perhaps the enthusiast has crossed the line and become the zealot. The control freak is deathly afraid of failure, and they don’t trust anyone else to get it right.

To placate your micromanaging boss try to establish a better working relationship, demonstrate your interest, concern, dedication, knowledge, and competency; keep the boss informed, request more autonomy. Put the boss at ease, address his fears, work to understand the pressures he faces and his point of view, and he may allow you the space you need to contribute your best.

Impatience:

Impatience—the fear of running late—can stimulate controlling behavior. Often impatient people usurp control in an attempt to speed events along and get more done. This quick-fix rarely works. As the signs say “The hurrier I go the behinder I get,” and “Look before you leap.”

Doing as a substitute for Being:

I make up for my pathetic being with more and more doing. I have a relentless sense of duty; I cannot say no. If I do enough my value will become obvious, even to me.

Contingent Self-esteem:

The biggest secret is that I’m not as good as I appear to be. My image has to be controlled at all cost. Because I feel inferior, I have to act superior. My biggest fear is that someone will discover I’m a wimp. The only opinion I have of myself is the opinion others have of me. How I feel depends entirely on what you think of me. I depend desperately on your approval to establish and maintain my self-worth. I work full time to cover up my vulnerability. I crave your affirmation and approval. I must control or even humiliate you so you don’t humiliate me.

These people don’t understand that their self-worth and dignity is intrinsic and is not provided by others. Also, stature is only achieved on an absolute scale, and is not evaluated in comparison to others.

First Person-Viewpoint:

We all view the world from our unique first-person viewpoint. But if other viewpoints can’t be comprehended, or this viewpoint is unmitigated by healthy relationships with others, or feeling empathy, it becomes disconnected, uncaring, unchecked, fixated, and destructive. This is the root of egotism. The egotist forgets that his freedom ends where other’s freedom begins. The belief (or fear) that “no one can get the job done as well as I can” or “if you want it done right, do it yourself” drives many control freaks to interfere, bosses to micro-manage, and poor leaders to overreach. Along with their first-person viewpoint, a fear of failure drives them to control every aspect of their world as they attempt to ensure success and reduce their anxiety. In any case the control freak is preserving their own interests at the expense of other’s. Children are born believing they are the center of the universe; tyrants never outgrow this belief.

Mistrusting Others

The control freak may simply mistrust others. There can be several causes for this including past betrayals, poor  relationships, or poor communication or delegation skills. They may criticize other’s work and find it unacceptable. The control freak believes that since others can’t be trusted to get the job done, there is no alternative to doing it yourself.

To work with such an untrusting control freak it may be helpful to gain their trust carefully and gradually over time.

Controlling Resources:

Control freaks may hold the mistaken belief that the person with the most toys wins.

Unaware:

Perhaps the control freak just does not know any better and is unaware of more constructive and effective approaches to achieving goals. Perhaps abuse is all they have ever known. Perhaps the only approach they ever learned for dealing with people is to abuse them. Perhaps their only role models were other control freaks. Perhaps you can have compassion for their ignorance and help them learn better approaches to building relationships.

Hierarchies:

Organizations are typically organized as hierarchies, with several people reporting to one boss. While this is a common and often effective organization structure, it is no excuse for an abusive boss, and it does not diminish the value of any of the humans in the organization, regardless of their position the formal hierarchy. Carefully designed organizations put in place mechanisms, such as upward feedback, anonymous reporting, and ombudsmen, to prevent or provide early warning of abuse.

Having a Bad Day:

When people are under unusual stress they may react by seizing control. Perhaps a generally reasonable person has just been stuck in traffic, had a fight with their spouse, got bad news from the doctor, learned they are about to lose their job, or bounced a check. They may react to this stress by being uncharacteristically difficult and controlling for some period of time. If a generally reasonable person is acting unreasonable today, then perhaps you can wait for their stress to pass and they will return to their more reasonable selves. A good person in bad circumstances deserves your compassion, not your provocation.

Responding to Tyrants:

We can choose how we respond to tyrants. There are alternatives to oppression.

Overcome our Fear:

Tyrants exploit our primal fears and we typically cower from them. We are seduced by their influence and succumb to their threats as we are easily blinded by fearanxietyshamehate, or guilt. We yield to their tantrums. Fear can easily lead to primal thinking, tunnel vision, and panic. But courage can overcome our fears and with careful and creative planning we can confront the tyrant.

Endure and Survive:

Slaves endured the oppression and humiliation of slavery for many years. It was not acceptance, but merely survival until they could work toward better treatment. Tyrants often come and go, perhaps you can wait this one out.

Understand their Point of View:

Perhaps the tyrant really does have it right. Work to adopt his point of view and understand where he is “coming from”, what problems he is facing, and what he is trying to accomplish. See if this helps to make his actions and motives more clear. Even tyrants deserve our empathy. Perhaps adopting his viewpoint will allow you to see alternative solutions, or at least cope better.

Disengage:

If you don’t like it, change it. If you can’t change it, leave. Acknowledge the oppression, understand the tyrant, consider your alternatives, and choose your battles carefully. Decide what you choose to change and what you choose to avoid. If this is just not a situation where you have the strength, interest, resources, or will to change now, you may decide to disengage and live to fight another day. If your boss is a tyrant arrange for a reassignment or leave the organization.

Tower, Don’t Cower:

Although the typical reaction is to cower in response to the tyrant’s threats, there is a more elevated and enlightened viewpoint. If we recognize the many fallacies tyrants rely on, and recognize tyrants as the lonely and childish school-yard bullies they are we can avoid being controlled by them. Spoiled brats do not deserve the attention they demand. Uncover, dispel, and shatter the myth. This viewpoint recognizes these powerful truths:

Dignity is intrinsic to every human. It does not have to be earned, it cannot be granted, and it cannot be taken away. The tyrant can neither strip you of your dignity nor can he provide you with dignity. We all share a long list of intrinsic similarities. You remain a worthy human being regardless of what the tyrant does. It is your own choice, your own asset, do not squander it. The oppressed are no less worthy than the powerful.

The tyrant’s freedom ends where yours begins. When the tyrant’s will infringes on your autonomy, a negotiation is required to resolve the conflict. The situation is symmetrical, you each have rights,boundaries, and limits. Seek shared values to provide principles that can help transcend or decide conflictthe. Create alternatives that eliminate the conflict and make it unnecessary. Identify trespass, make it visible, and do not tolerate it.

First person viewpoint is the fundamental asymmetry of humanity. The tyrant is seduced by his own narrow viewpoint. He considers only what he sees and he experiences that clearly, uniquely, and powerfully. His point of view is not moderated by healthy and respectful relationships with people who have alternative viewpoints. Perhaps he is unaware, or intolerant of diverse or conflicting viewpoints. He may fear skepticism and inquiry. He does not welcome criticism or differing points of view. He may not even be aware of any alternative viewpoints. Perhaps he is uncomfortable with complexity. But his is only one out of the six-billion valid viewpoints on this planet. Your own point of view is equally valid. Find a forum, express your views, and begin the dialogue. The storyteller provides only one viewpoint—it is inherently selective and biased. Go tell your story—it is equally valid and important.

Hate can only be sustained by cognitive error. The tyrant works to control or eliminate something or someone he sees as the obstacle to his goals. He has named the evil other, he hates it, and it must be destroyed. But choosing to hate is an ineffective shortcut that avoids the hard work of analyzing the problem in depth. Hating attributes blame incorrectly; it misallocates right and wrong. To defuse the hate, assess the situation from another perspective, analyze the problem in more depth, identify the real causes, eliminate the errors in thinking, and move forward with an effective solution.

Wanted! for Murder, for Kidnapping, for Theft and for ArsonTyranny is dishonorable. History judges tyrants harshly. Hitler and his new wife, Eva Braun, committed suicide in his underground bunker in Berlin in the final days of World War II. Joseph Stalin’s crash programs of industrialization and collectivization in the 1930s, along with his ongoing campaigns of political repression, are estimated to have cost the lives of millions of people. Saddam Hussein was convicted of charges related to the executions of 148 Iraqi Shiites suspected of planning an assassination attempt against him, and was sentenced to death by hanging. Saddam was executed on December 30, 2006. Many of Mao Tse Tung’s policies and socio-political programs such as the Great Leap Forward and the Cultural Revolution are blamed by critics for causing severe damage to the culture, society, economy, and foreign relations of China, as well as an estimated 40 million or more lost lives. Their glory is short lived, their disgrace lasts forever. It won’t be long before the tide turns against the tyrant.

Might does not make right. Quite the opposite is true; when evidence is available then influence alone can make the point and change behavior without having to rely on coercion. If your views are correct, they do not need an aggressive defense; if they are incorrect they do not deserve it. If Pepsi really was better than Coke, there would be no need to spend $ Billions on advertisements claiming it is better. If President Richard Nixon believed he was the better candidate, then why was the Watergate break-in necessary? If Catholic priests did not molest children, then the Vatican would not have written a secret document, the Crimen sollicitationis, directing the use of pontifical secrecy to cover up the cases. Beginning in 1950, Senator Joseph McCarthy became noted for making unsubstantiated claims that there were large numbers of Communists and Soviet spies and sympathizers inside the United States government. It is difficult to estimate the number of victims of his false accusations. The number imprisoned is in the hundreds, and some ten or twelve thousand lost their jobs. Ultimately, his tactics led to his being discredited and censured by the United States Senate. Because their views go unchallenged, powerful self-centered people often get it very wrong. If the tyrant really does have a better idea, let that idea gain acceptance on its own merits. Good ideas speak for themselves. The need to use force is evidence of a weak idea.

Humor provides a new perspective. Political Satire, Political Cartoons, Doonesbury, Dilbert, the Daily Show, and Saturday Night Live all work to balance power by making fun of it. The nursery rhyme “Rock-a-by Baby” may have been a surreptitious way of singing dissent with the English civil war. Be very careful when using humor to disarm power. Respond in a friendly but disarming way that makes light of the tyrant’s abusive tactics. Highlight the fallacies in the tyrant’s goals and tactics, but carefully avoid humiliating the tyrant.

The best leaders are the best servants. Leadership is not about controlling people; it’s about caring for people and being a useful resource for people. The best leaders help people work together and do their best to achieve an important goal. Their actions focus on accomplishing as a team much more than any one person could accomplish alone. Leadership is about helping people attain the goal, not about aggrandizing the leader. Tyrants don’t serve and servants don’t control. Tyrants are not leaders, and any contrary myths need to be exposed as false.

Scapegoats are chosen as convenient proxies. They are easy targets chosen to accept blame, displace responsibility for problems from where it truly belongs, and to distract attention from the actual problems. Tyrants identify scapegoats to distract attention from their own misdeeds. The scapegoat is not the problem, don’t be distracted, look elsewhere for the real cause. Analyze cause and effect more carefully, avoid the fallacy of disproportionate responsibility, determine more accurately where responsibly actually belongs. Draw attention away from the scapegoat and toward the real problem.

Courage can overcome fear. The tyrant uses fear to keep us from seeing alternatives. In the face of his intimidation we typically freeze, flee, become anger locked, or submit to his demands. But if we can focus, summon our courage, relax, comprehend the situation, and develop alternatives, we can create options for moving forward constructively. On December 1, 1955, Rosa ParksExternal Link became famous for refusing to obey bus driverThe Unknown Rebel James Blake’s order that she give up her seat. This action of civil disobedience started the Montgomery Bus Boycott, which is one of the largest movements against racial segregation. In addition, this launched Martin Luther King, Jr., who was involved with the boycott, to a prominent position among his people and in the civil rights movement. She has had a lasting legacy worldwide.

During the Tiananmen Square protests of 1989External Link an unarmed man stood in the center of the street, halting the tanks’ progress. He reportedly asked, “Why are you here? You have caused nothing but misery.” As the tank driver attempted to go around him, the “tank man” moved into the tank’s path. He continued to stand defiantly in front of the tanks for some time, then climbed up onto the turret of the lead tank to speak to the soldiers inside. After returning to his position blocking the tanks, the man was pulled aside by onlookers who perhaps feared he would be shot or run over. Time Magazine dubbed him “The Unknown Rebel” and later named him one of the 100 most influential people of the 20th century. Tyrants are often unprepared for truly courageous and well-planned responses.

Human needs are simple and largely non-material. Although autonomy is a human need, steak for dinner is not. In choosing to endure tyrant’s abuse you may be choosing to buy a steak dinner at the cost of your autonomy. This is usually a bad deal. Choose simplicity over oppression.

There are always alternatives. Reject the obvious alternatives, create new options, and find another way. Innovation creates opportunities. Dialogue creates solutions that other forms of communication jealously hide. If you can’t think of alternatives and feel there is no way out then talk to more people and generate more ideas.

Mohandas K. GandhiNo one is powerless.  We each have our own sources of power. The boss depends on the secretary, the doctor depends on nurses and patients, and the manager depends on the workers. Mahatma GandhiExternal Linkwas the skinny little brown man who summoned the power to free India from British colonial rule. Find your source of strength and apply it to the problem at hand. Don’t play the victim, you always have choices. Speak up and speak out about what you want and expect from the relationship. End the trespassing and assert your right to dignity, respect, and freedom. Describe the actual, unfair, and unwanted asymmetry of the relationship, how it makes you feel, why it is unfair, and then describe the fair and symmetrical relationship you expect. Say what you mean, but don’t be mean. Don’t insult, humiliate, or threaten the control freak. Confront the control freak, and plan how to expose and disarm the tyrant.

Helplessness can be learned and unlearned. Oppression teaches you to become passive and stop trying to help yourself. But you can reassess your options and decide to take action to end the oppression.

Everyone, even the tyrant, is vulnerable. Study the tyrant to find out his weaknesses. Balance the power. Apply your strength where he is most weak. Calmly describe how natural forces resisting the tyrant will eventually defeat his efforts.

It is possible to speak truth to power. Don’t be distracted or intimidated by the tyrant’s positional power, reputation, physical appearance; wincing, bellowing, or rolling eyes; physical surroundings, or other attempts to emphasize a disparity in power and importance. Do not tolerate ego rants. Do your homework, get the facts right, and present your case clearly, calmly, and persuasively. You can challenge an authority by respectfully asking: “How do you know?”, “Why do you say what you say?”, “What is the evidence to support your position?”, and “Who disagrees with you?”

Rana HusseiniExternal Link spoke truth to power and exposed the shame of Jordan when she unveiled the common but unspoken crime of honor killingsExternal Link there. Honor killings refer to the murder by family members of a woman who is raped or is said to have participated in illicit sexual activity. The mere perception that a woman has behaved in a way that is considered as dishonoring her family is sufficient to trigger an attack on her life. Across the globe, women who are beaten, brutalized, and raped can expect police, prosecutors, and judges to humiliate victims, fail to investigate cases, and dismiss charges. Honor killings accounted for one-third of the murders of women in Jordan in 1999. She wrote a series of reports on the killings and launched a campaign to stop them. As a result, she has been threatened and accused of being anti-Islam, antifamily, and anti-Jordan. Yet, Queen NoorExternal Link took up the cause, and later, the newly ascended King Hassan cited the need for protection of women in his opening address to parliament. The conspiracy of silence has been forever broken thanks to this courageous young journalist who risks her life in the firm belief that exposing the truth about honor killings and other forms of violence against women is the first step to stopping them.

The tools of influence are symmetrical. The techniques the powerful use to influence the oppressed can also be adapted by the oppressed to influence the powerful.

Extremists discount, dismiss, distort, dispute, or deflect important evidence. But facts are stubborn. As the facts become more widely known and understood, the unreasonableness of the tyrant’s position becomes more clear to more people. His support eventually dwindles as more people recognize the emperor has no clothes.External Link

There is tremendous power in alliances. Striking Members of the International Lady Garment Workers Union (Ilgwu) Picket on 7th Ave.None of us are as smart or powerful as all of us. As the scope of the tyrant’s impact increases, as more people suffer from his abuse, the more people there are to pool their resources and energy in overcoming his grip. Find the people who are suffering from the tyrant’s grip, recognize the common problem you are facing, and find a way to band together and effect positive change. India’s independence movement, labor unions, the women’s suffrage movement, the civil rights movement, and the anti-apartheid cause all provide prominent examples of oppressed people working together to overcome powerful forces, abuse, and tyranny.

You can choose your battles. You can decide when to ignore, yield to, appease, or accommodate the control-freak’s requests. You can also decide when to confront the unreasonable behavior and insist on change. Keep an effective strategy in mind to help you choose your battles carefully. With careful preparation, you can always walk away.

Government exists only to serve and benefit the governed. The United Nation’s Universal Declaration of Human Rights clearly states: “The will of the people shall be the basis of the authority of government; this will shall be expressed in periodic and genuine elections which shall be by universal and equal suffrage and shall be held by secret vote or by equivalent free voting procedures”. Tyrants often forget this and erroneously believe the purpose of government is to benefit only themselves. Insist on a government that represents and serves the people.

Privilege and power are distinct from talent. A rich, powerful person may not be very bright while a poor person might be very bright, hard working, creative, and talented. Don’t be mislead by image, boasting, intimidation, pedigree, and posturing. Demonstrate leadership through hard work, not privilege. Apply your talents regardless of your present social position. Seek stature, not status.Traffic, 405 North, Los Angeles, CA

There are paths of progress other than growth.  Flowers develop by unfolding their potential, not by becoming the biggest flower. Bigger is not always better. There are important alternatives, including: peace of mind, integrity, giving and gaining the respect of others, tranquility, clean air, clean water, the beauty of nature, a healthy environment to enjoy now and sustain for the future, family, friendships, community, safety, stability, trust, leisure time, meaningful work, authentic experiences,reciprocity, good health, reduced stress, ongoing education, fun, enjoyment of the arts, transcendence, and making significant contributions that help others. Tyrants often ignore or diminish the value of these genuine alternatives to growth, expansion, and conquest. Challenge the assumptions that growth is good and inevitable. Pursue genuine progress, and don’t be seduced by the idea that growth represents progress. Reject the insatiable tyranny of more.

We are all connected. We all rely on others—locally and globally—for needed resources such as food, water, health care, energy, labor, land, and education. The tyrant depends on the oppressed.

Tyranny is childish. Tyrants lack self-control, sound judgment, refined character, respectwisdom, and transcendent purpose. Tyranny is a tragically unleashed version of a child’s selfish tantrum. It is ineffective; tyranny has a clear history of tragedy and failure. In retrospect it often looks preposterous. We can learn to recognize it, call attention to it, act as responsible grownups, and not tolerate it. Maturity is about using wisdom to achieve constructive results. Tyrants lack the wisdom of: understanding the intrinsic similarities we all share, interconnections, relatednesscompassionrespect, accurate history, symmetryinquiry,humility, and responsibilityAdults don’t tolerate tantrums, there is no reason to tolerate tyranny.

Oppression constrains the tyrant. Sustaining oppression requires a narrow worldview based on false beliefs. The false belief that women are not smart enough to vote, the false belief that slaves are subhuman, the false belief that Jews are to blame for the problems of Nazi Germany, and the false belief that the poor are stupid were each essential to maintaining the power of the tyrant and sustaining the oppression. When these false beliefs are dismissed and corrected, we gain a more accurate understanding of our world and we all benefit. Expose the lie and strengthen the community.

Sunlight is the best disinfectant. The most credible and respected organizations operate in an open atmosphere. Their operations and decisions are transparent and can be easily examined by interested people inside and outside the organization. Organizations that are well run and are responsible to the public not only accept criticism and suggestions, but embrace them. If questions from constituents, the public, or the media make leaders or other responsible parties become uncomfortable, evasive, or disingenuous, the questions are usually valid and the answers are not. People who feel uncomfortable under the bright light of scrutiny and criticism often have something to hide. Shine the light on tyranny to purify it.

Tyrants are lonely, afraid, insecure, and human. They deserve our compassion, even as we withhold our obedience and submission. The many causes of tyranny, described at the beginning of this page, show that tyrants are often driven by deficiencies, inadequacy, loneliness, or fear. Tyrants often see themselves as the victim. Adolf Hitler titled his autobiography “Mein Kampf”, “My Struggle”. Perhaps if they can connect in authentic relationships with caring people, their pain can be soothed, and their behaviors can improve. Even the nastiest tyrants are only human. Understand the similarities you share with them. Connect with them on a human level. Pity the poor tyrant. Have you hugged a tyrant today?

The Land of Oz:

In the popular movie “The Wizard of Oz” Dorothy demonstrates constructive responses to tyranny.  The movie is such a good allegory for coping with tyranny you might be tempted to claim “everything I need to know about tyranny I learned in the land of Oz.” Here is a brief summary:

  • Everyone experiences fear, including fear of humiliation.
  • Courage can overcome fear.
  • We are responsible for our own choices.
  • We all have sources of power we can draw on.
  • Authentic self-confidence increases our power.
  • Inquiry, evidence, and argument are powerful tools for uncovering what is.
  • Alliances can increase our power.
  • We each have our own important stories to tell.
  • Tyrants use the trappings of power to enhance their image.
  • Tyrants suppress and manipulate opponents by exploiting their fears.
  • We often imagerespond to  before we respond to substance.
  • Image is not substance.
  • You can speak truth to power.
  • Tyrants respond differently to compassion than they do to threats, dominance, or humiliation.
  • The Wizard is only human.
  • All things must pass; even tyranny is impermanent.

Quotations:

  • “Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Great men are almost always bad men.” ~  Lord ActonExternal Link
  • “He that would govern others, first should be the master of himself.” ~ Philip MassingerExternal Link
  • “Humanity is not divisive, but inclusive.” ~ Neriah Lothamer
  • “No one can take advantage of you without your permission.” ~ Eleanor RooseveltExternal Link
  • “We must all hang together, or most assuredly we shall all hang separately.” ~ Benjamin FranklinExternal Link
  • “Pity the tyrant.” ~ Hans Otto Storm
  • “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” ~ Mahatma GandhiExternal Link
  • “When those in power are forced into a process of deliberation, then and only then will reason play its necessary central role.” ~ Al Gore
  • “Never feel overwhelmed when you are overwhelmed with evidence of injustice.” ~ Ralph Nader

References

The Control Freak, by Les Parrott

Imperative People: Those Who Must Be in Control, by Les Parrott

Dancing in the Shadow of Tyranny: An Activist’s Guide to Inner Disarmament, by Neriah Lothamer

Bullies, Tyrants, and Impossible People: How to Beat Them Without Joining Them, by Ronald M. Shapiro, Mark A. Jankowski, James Dale

When You Work for a Bully: Assessing Your Options and Taking Action, by Susan Futterman

Snakes in Suits: When Psychopaths Go to Work, , by Paul Babiak, Robert D. Hare

Humiliation and Assistance: Telling the Truth About Power, Telling a New Story, by Linda M. Hartling, Wellesley College

The United Nations Universal Declaration of Human Rights.

The 48 Laws of Power, by Robert Greene

How to Use Power Phrases to Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say, & Get What You Want, by Meryl Runion

Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap… and Others Don’t, by Jim Collins

Bridging the Class Divide: And Other Lessons for Grassroots Organizing, by Linda Stout

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders DSM-IV-TR Fourth Edition, by the American Psychiatric Association.

The Assault on Reason, by Al Gore

The Wizard of Oz—When Dorothy courageously penetrates the wizard’s façade, they finally connect on an authentic human level and each gets the help they need.

Yertle the Turtle and Other Stories, by  Dr. Seuss

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Tyrants are lonely, afraid, insecure, and human. They deserve our compassion, even as we withhold our obedience and submission. The many causes of tyranny, described at the beginning of this page, show that tyrants are often driven by deficiencies, inadequacy, loneliness, or fear. Tyrants often see themselves as the victim. Adolf Hitler titled his autobiography “Mein Kampf”, “My Struggle”. Perhaps if they can connect in authentic relationships with caring people, their pain can be soothed, and their behaviors can improve. Even the nastiest tyrants are only human. Understand the similarities you share with them. Connect with them on a human level. Pity the poor tyrant. Have you hugged a tyrant today?”

Fuck that! Deserve OUR compassion? Screw them, let them all drop dead, they all are suffering in their insecure, lonely existences, and they deserve to suffer more than most abusive sub-human losers do simply because they are hateful, loathesome, nasty filth spreading their white-power hate to ignorant, uneducated kids and vulnerable people who are emotionally damaged or who have been recently hurt; people who are looking for a spiritual path and come across these bloodthirsty nazi fuckers who pretend to sympathize with them in order to suck them into their false world of bullshit satanism, their guise for nazism and hatred. Let these insecure assholes dig their holes and let those who realize what they really are send out the invites for the mass burials, and bring extra shovels. None of these shits deserve our compassion. There’s no room for these pitiful bullies any longer. Let them all squirm in their own shit knowing the world in on to their lies and the truth about what each and every one of them truly is.

You know who you are, insecure, weak little lonely worm. Crawl back into dirty little hole before your your new friend’s secret it outed to Joy of Satan. You’re not supposed to have Jewish friends, or friends with Jewish children, Jewish girlfriends with Jewish little girls… you hypocrite. Bully dozens of people, former friends, total strangers — stalk and harass people for years for their eating habits and now for their race, their religion or their sexual preference — and you, Veronika Hompo dare to parade your new pal, who has a Jewish daughter? After all you have done to others in the past year? Claiming it’s what satan wants? Wrong, bitch. He doesn’t want what you do, say or think at all. Your time is up, hypocritical, sick psychopath.